Ugh holidays have begun……

UGH!!!!!! Is this what you got up thinking this morning? Dreading this day? If it didn’t already start last week or even earlier….sigh.

The beginning of all the holidays…….do you find yourself tensing up? First I will tell you that for us it has gotten so much better so never lose hope. I do believe that if you want them to do better that we have to sacrifice and maybe miss a few things. I know that isn’t fair to us, but hey if it will keep peace then I am all for it.

So missing a few things what does that mean to us as a parent? I am sure that you can add a lot of things, but the hardest things isn’t missing the fun. It isn’t missing the parties or the dinners or what ever else you may do during the holidays but it’s what we have to endure from other people……it may be a well meaning parent or sibling or a friend that you thought you would be close to forever or worse yet it may be a spouse. So many just don’t get it. They see your child as being so sweet, cute, considerate……well anything that other people want to see our kids give them a performance of a life time. So yep we are the bad guys.

I want to encourage you today to know that you are not a mean parent because you don’t let your child have all of the candy that they want tonight and you are not a mean parent if you let the “other” kids go have fun tonight and not your child that has RAD or other behaviors.

Parenting our children isn’t about being fair ……. it is giving what each of our kids need so that they can heal and grow up and be a productive member of society.

Also know that you are not a lone…….we are here and many others to support you………

Patti

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3 thoughts on “Ugh holidays have begun……

  1. Every time I visit I am reminded of my great respect for you as an adoptive parent, giving your all for your family. Wishing you all the best for the holidays, and hope that all of you adjust well to the disruptive change of schedule that always happens at this time of year. From the bottom of my heart I would like to give you this little gift in honour of all the hard work you put in, and also for your six beautiful kids who are also working hard at growing and healing and learning, each in their own individual way.

    Here ’tis… (please feel free to share among family and friends.)
    http://wildersoul.wordpress.com/free-gift/

    With best wishes!
    Anasera

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