I know my last blog was disheartening to parents that that children that have RAD, so I want to give another side. Our daughter chose to disrupt her adoption. It wasn’t because she didn’t heal it was because she wanted her bio sister more. Our kids can heal!!!
Our oldest son came to live with us when he was 4 & 1/2. He is now 20…….his early childhood before the age of 3 was horrendous. His abuse was very severe. This is where RAD is so complex…….if you look at this son’s beginning….abused in the womb, born addicted to crack and heroine, fractured skull at 8 months, broken leg, arm, ribs, medical report says to many scars to count – tortured……..he was kept in a cage……his bio family was involved in witchcraft and gangs…..he wasn’t destined to survive……but he did…….
Although his abuse was so severe his RAD was only moderate and although 2 of our kids that have RAD their abuse wasn’t that severe one of them his RAD is severe…..so there is no set pattern for RAD……
Our son has had many struggles but he has HEALED from his RAD. He is amazing and he is called to preach. I want to share his ministry page so you can see that there is hope……I contribute his healing to his desire to serve God. It comes down to a choice….we teach our kids right from wrong but it is ultimately up to them to make the right choice……I am so thankful that he made the right choice and choice to serve God and answer the call…….
Please know that although I am suffering a heartbreak from one failed adoption that I have 5 other adoptions that have not failed……I had one to make it to being an adult. I have know doubt that although we still have struggles we are going to make it…………