If that was my kid…… have you ever heard that or even better have you ever said it. I remember way back when if I saw a kid acting up or being disrespectful to their parents that I would say there is no way if that was my child they would act like that…….well…..
That was me. I was clueless……I was uneducated. Sure there are lots of kids that act that way because they aren’t made to mind, but then there are kids like mine that has childhood trauma that causes extreme behaviors.
Yesterday was one of those days that I was wishing for one of “those” people that thinks if they had a child for a week they would change them. Oh my goodness that made me laugh again.
The problem with that is a week wouldn’t be long enough. Most kids have that honeymoon period which can last for several weeks or longer. I don’t think our 14 year old would take that long but our 13 year old would. Also You have to consider that many of us parents that have traumatized kids (RAD more specifically) have grasped at straws on what to do so we are stricter than most people will be. Our kids would be in Heaven until they started destroying your home or your possessions or hurting your pets or kids. Then things would start changing.
At this point though Hey if you think you can change a child in a week I could really use a vacation. LOL I know you can’t change them that quick and I know you will think that I’m a horrible parent because “with you” they are so wonderful but hey a break would be worth it so just holler……lol I can pack their bags really fast…….
Life is full of twists and turns……our life has been a little to full of them this past year. No matter what we are going through God never leaves us. Even though at times we feel like we just can’t do it anymore. He will give us the strength to make it another day. As we have gone through so much this past year the hardest thing has been watching how it has affected our family. Having children that have emotional issues and knowing how much they have healed and then watch as things are out of your hands and they start regressing is really hard. I know that when all of this is over with my husband’s wreck and his arrest that our kids will recover and be stronger than before……but how much longer will we go through this and how much will they regress…..only God knows…..but I know that God and satan had a conversation and satan told God if He would just let him have us for a little while that we wouldn’t do what He has called us to do…that we would give up…..see he has to ask God before he can touch us. So God had enough faith in us that we can handle all of this…..so we will…..and we will be stronger than ever to go and do what God has called us to do……
I am thankful for family and friends that have shown us support. I am thankful for all of the encouraging words and all of the prayers………
Isaiah 41: 10 Fear not [there is nothing to fear], for I am with you; do not look around you in terror and be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen and harden you to difficulties, yes, I will help you; yes, I will hold you up and retain you with My [victorious] right hand of rightness and justice.