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Forgiven

Forgiven

Forgiven……..wow forgiven……

Forgiving someone isn’t always easy especially if it is a one way act. I have always taught our kids to forgive their abusers. Now that Sarah’s birth mom has passed away and she has told us many things that happened she has had a lot of anger and of course has acted out. We have prayed and she told me that she forgave her mom.

Saturday night the Hinson’s came to sing at our church and their daughter wrote a song about forgiving. Our 7 yr old daughter told me to look at her and when I did she had tears streaming down her face……I had her to come closer to me and she told me that when she said that she forgave her mom that she didn’t really do it and she couldn’t because she was dead. I asked her if she would like to write her mom a letter and we would tie a balloon to it and let her release it. She said yes so she did.

Sunday after church we went out to eat and then went to the store to buy a balloon. My great niece was having a birthday party (at least we thought lol) so we bought a balloon for her too. I texted my niece and told her we were running a few minutes late but was on our way. She asked me where we were going….LOL so we were a week early better than being late….There is a point in me telling on myself ….

We got home and we all gathered around her and we prayed over her letter that first of all Sarah could forgive her mom and let go of her anger but we also prayed that the balloon would land where ever it was supposed to. I could tell she had a lot of emotions running through her mind because I could see it on her face….I asked her if she was ready…..she said she was and held up the balloon….I said ready set go….she released the balloon and it went plop…right to the ground….I told you I was telling on myself for a reason….isn’t it amazing how God takes care of the little things for us….if I hadn’t thought that my niece’s birthday party was that day we wouldn’t have bought her a balloon and then Sarah couldn’t have released her balloon…so we tied another balloon to it and she released it. She watched until it couldn’t be seen and then fell into my arms crying…

Only time will tell if she was able to let it all go……but I do know that it was a giant step in the right direction……

Patti

Forgiven by Jordan Honea the late Kenny Hinson’s granddaughter

Heart of ice…….

A heart of ice is exactly how our daughters heart was. It was hard and cold. She didn’t care about anyone or anything. Nothing mattered to her. It didn’t seem like we would ever break through. 

 

Is this how your child’s heart is? The holidays are always hard for our kids. So many memories and triggers. Hopefully most of us can take a deep breath now. 

 

Our daughters heart isn’t like this any more. It’s tender. She finally allowed us in. Holidays are still hard on her but she doesn’t rage like she used to. There was a time when I almost gave up …..I felt like I had lost. Praise God we didn’t give up. She has turned into a beautiful young lady that loves the Lord and of course us. 

 

If your child has a heart of ice don’t lose hope ….. it can thaw and your child can love you. 

Patti