I finally figured out what our son is doing……. he’s trying to get better cell phone service …..he needed more bars …..
I posted this in one of the RAD support groups last night and it is amazing at how many have walls just like ours……
We don’t even let him stay in his room when he is mad so when he does this he is in complete control……so the question is why does he do it……..
Reactive attachment disorder is so complex……we all have so many why’s……. it’s not just the holes in the walls …..it’s the doors pulled off the hinges or the shattered windows…..or peeing on the ceiling or in the vents or closets or anywhere other than the toilet…….
it’s constantly stealing food although there is no way they could still be hungry….or ripping their clothes…..oh my the cussing……
The list goes on and on….it’s hard to believe that the little angels that sit in the pews at church being perfect is destructive and can be so violent at home.
So why? Why are they like this? Past trauma they just can’t seem to get over it. They smell something….they hear something….they taste something……they see something……
Jordan was doing really good until my husband’s wreck and that along with other things really rocked his boat. I believe that he is afraid of losing me so it easier on him if he just tries to push us away……….then he don’t have to face rejection.
So what do we do as parents? Did I just ask that? Surely you don’t expect me to answer….LOL
Well as you can see by the Can you hear me yet I use humor…….I also first and foremost PRAY!!!! I pray and then I pray some more……. I keep him close to me. I try not to over react when I see a new hole or the many other things that they do. What good is that going to do? It’s going to make me have stroke or heart attack……it’s going to cause hatred to grow in my heart…..it is going to cause many more gray hairs……it’s going to cause…well I’ll let you fill in the blank.
Ok so I am busted…..I have a lot of gray hair….LOL I also get very stressed even if I don’t react…..ok so I’m not perfect….I have even not liked him. Yes like is different than love…..I have never stopped loving my kids no matter what they have done and it’s not that I have not liked them but I sure haven’t liked their behavior. I think another big thing that helps me is to not take anything personally.
Well I am out of time so all in the day with Jordan….I will say this it is 5:03 pm and he hasn’t had any major meltdowns yet…whoo hoo…….