So many well intentioned people advice new moms to let their baby cry it out……Don’t hold them so much……They say you are going to spoil them
We were blessed with two new born babies our first one was 4 days old …he was abandoned .…. our second one we had her two brothers in foster care and she came to live with us when she was 5 weeks old. I held them as much as I could. I was told many times that I was spoiling them. I started working at my mom’s daycare when our first one was 16 months old so I held him everyday to get him asleep at nap time. My mom would say what are you going to do when he starts school and I would tell her I will go to school and hold him. LOL Up until a couple of years ago he would sit beside me on the couch and I would put my arm around him until he went to sleep of course this was after I got our youngest daughter asleep and she was carried to bed. Did I spoil them….yes ….. are they attached…. YES!!!! Out of all 6 of our kids these two have no attachment issues.
The first year of your child’s life it is important for you as their parent to meet their needs. When they cry they need something and if they are fed and dry and they just want to be held then hold them. We need to reach out if we see a mom to be and mentor these new moms……..we can help prevent children from getting RAD. If you know a new mom tell them about www.smileatyourbaby.org They can get daily bits about attaching to their baby.