Rehoming your adopted child………

Can you say WOW!!! There is a lot in the news right now about rehoming your adopted children. Although the two stories that I saw were very disturbing I feel that these are the exception. At least I pray they are………

At the same time parents are forced into a corner and sometimes have no where to turn to for help. Many don’t realize that in some states you can’t get help for your child unless you relinquish your parental rights……don’t want to do that and face abandonment charges? Well here’s the other option that parents are told…… if your child hurts one of your other children then the state can remove all of your children for failure to protect……..

About 4 years ago our daughter was 9 years old and was very violent. She wanted to kill us and we would find knives in her room that she intended on using on us. I couldn’t let her get more than a foot away from me because she would try to hurt the other kids. I was always able to keep our family safe until she started running away. Once she started going out her window then we no longer had that assurance that we were all safe including her….. She told me in great detail how she was going to kill me and we called her therapist and put her in a residential treatment center that night. We are blessed that we live in a state that we can get our children help a little easier….. the problem we have is that a treatment center only makes our kids worse if they don’t fully understand what RAD is…….

I know that there are families that are forced to make the heart wrenching decision to find a new home for their children. If you are faced with this decision make sure you are doing everything the right way. Hire an attorney. I understand that you are desperate but don’t let desperation cause you to make decisions that is going to put your child in danger. You love your child or you would have already given up. Take the time to make sure they are in a safe family……..

Patti

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6 thoughts on “Rehoming your adopted child………

  1. “parents are forced into a corner and sometimes have no where to turn to for help”
    Exactly right. Only it’s probably “most” states, not just some.

  2. Parents are forced into a corner and before adoption even though the law is full disclosure of the child issues by CPS or international agency it is never done. Either by withholding information or simply they just didn’t know. My son when he first came to me, CPS didn’t even tell me he was a bed wetter. Something so simple in the scheme of things that could of been so helpful to know that first night with me.

    Thank you Patti for sharing your life in your blog. I am a follower. May you blessed with abundance.

    • In our case they were absolutely clueless. We still weren’t told about her behaviors because I seriously doubt that she saved all of this for us and we were her 14th placement but we were told lots of love and a stable home and she would be fine. I still love all of our caseworkers that we worked with and now a lot of them know more about RAD but that is why we have to speak up about it ……. thank you so much ….. I love everything you are doing. You are awesome.

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